I'm so excited.....Eric's surprise 40th birthday party is coming together nicely! We're expecting 10 family members coming down to ring in the new year and celebrate E's birthday! I can't wait to see his face, I don't think he has a clue!!!!
Thankfully Eric doesn't follow my blog and I can shout it out from here, it's been a hard 6wks keeping my mouth shut!
Friday, December 30, 2011
Friday, November 11, 2011
"F" is for Fun, Fall, Friday, FOOTBALL
I started writing this blog nearly a month ago 11.11.11 and for some reason I was pulled from the computer and my words were forgotten about until I happened about them tonight. But since I started it why not finish. Right?
Today was an "F" day. Full of fun; we were lucky enough to spend this beautiful fall Friday with the St. Louis Rams football team during one of their practices.
The Rams invited veterans out to watch one of their practices and to thank the vets for their service. I cannot put into words how excited I was when Eric told me we were one of the selected families. Eric had to wear his BDU's but I made sure Jonner and I were clothed in our Rams gear and Eric went out to purchase items for the players to sign during the meet and greet.
It was so much fun to shake hands and chat with the players. They're just normal people like you and me. They get worn out from a hard workout, they get hungry, they laugh and tell jokes....ordinary people - who make a ton of money!
I think the biggest highlight was for Jonner (on a few occassions). He played football with Rampage the mascott and had several pictures taken with him. And after the practice Brandon Lloyd made a bee-line for Jonner and gave him his practice glove. He made the day of one little boy!
Here are a few pictures of our day.
Today was an "F" day. Full of fun; we were lucky enough to spend this beautiful fall Friday with the St. Louis Rams football team during one of their practices.
The Rams invited veterans out to watch one of their practices and to thank the vets for their service. I cannot put into words how excited I was when Eric told me we were one of the selected families. Eric had to wear his BDU's but I made sure Jonner and I were clothed in our Rams gear and Eric went out to purchase items for the players to sign during the meet and greet.
It was so much fun to shake hands and chat with the players. They're just normal people like you and me. They get worn out from a hard workout, they get hungry, they laugh and tell jokes....ordinary people - who make a ton of money!
I think the biggest highlight was for Jonner (on a few occassions). He played football with Rampage the mascott and had several pictures taken with him. And after the practice Brandon Lloyd made a bee-line for Jonner and gave him his practice glove. He made the day of one little boy!
Here are a few pictures of our day.
Warm Up
#55 shaking hands
My two favorite guys
Jman with Rampage
Playing football with Rampage...notice the ball bouncing off of his head!
Playing ball with Rampage
Is this not the cutest little boy EVER!
As Jonner said "meeting a real hero" WWII Vet
Scrimage
Daddy playing ball with his boy
High 5's!
#8 Quarterback Sam Bradford signing J's helmet
Today: I now realize why I never finished this blog. I hadn't uploaded my pictures, but my thoughts were all over the place. And now that it's weeks later I don't know what direction my thoughts were going in...and I don't know how to fix it now. So I appologize for the beebopping around. It was a great day and gave us so many wonderful memories. Jonner still talks about Brandon Lloyd giving him his glove and he loves to show off his signed football & helmet. We've put them away to keep nice and hope to have properly (safely) display his treasures in his room. I've gone from the woman who doesn't like/watch football to a Rams fan!
Little man with his treasures. Now THAT is a real smile!
Future NFLer
November is National Adoption Month
When I mention to someone we're trying to adopt the first response I get is "where from?" I know they're expecting an exotic, foreign destination in which we'll fly off to and return with our new bundle. When I tell them we're adopting domestically I hear "oh, local". As if a child from our own country will not be as cute, loved, and "exotic" as a child adopted from another country.
I've always had a desire to adopt, Eric from the beginning said no. I remained persistant and every so often I'd mention it in passing and "feel him out". The summer of 2010 there was a situation that a distant family member had a baby and DCFS stepped in and removed the baby from her care before she was even able to leave the hospital with the baby. Eric and I discussed this child and even though we realized we wouldn't be able to get that child it opened up a line of communication between us to really investigate adoption. To my surprise Eric had a change of heart. Initially I looked into foster care, there are so many children in the system that are in need of a good, loving home and it breaks my heart that so many are in need of a forever family. Sadly the Illinois laws turned us away from becoming foster parents. I understand and agree with the philosophy of keeping families together, but how many chances does a parent get? How many times does a child need to be bounced back and forth from parents to foster care. I couldn't allow Jonner to have someone in and out of our home, he wouldn't understand and it'd break my heart.
January of this year I started looking into adoption and doing a little bit of research. I had no idea where to start. One day I wore my Hawkeye shirt to pick J up from school and one of his classmate's mom stated she was from Iowa and her son's birthmother was too. Wearing that shirt was a blessing and gave me a starting point! She hooked me up with an attorney in Iowa and I contacted them and we received their application form in the mail. We filled it out but something just didn't feel right and I didn't send it off right away. A week later a girl from church and I were talking and she mentioned a friend of her's had adopted from Lutheran Child and Family Services right here in the town we live in. Instantly I knew that was the route I wanted to go. Local for me to feel involved and having grown up in a Lutheran church it felt right for me. Eric just went along for the ride and let me make most of the decissions. I contacted LCFS and stopped at their office and picked up an application, made an appointment to meet with one of their workers and get started. Since we'd already filled out an application for the attorney in Iowa it was easy to fill out the LCFS application and get it returned in no time. On March 7, 2011 it was offical, we'd jumped into the adoption process with both feet. Our application and application fee had been submitted with much of our additional background information. In April we had our homestudy walk through of our home and by the end of May we had our approved homestudy in our hot little hands. We were approved to adopt!
It's crazy how an individual can get pregnant, and be able to take their child home with them no questions asked and yet to adopt we indure fingerprinting, background checks, a home walk through, interviewing of friends, letters from family, financial reports...and this is just a peak of what is need to adopt. It's not for the faint of heart and it weeds out those that are not serious about adoption. We made it through the paperwork! Now we continue to wait...
Waiting; this is the hard part. We've sent facebook messages and emails out to everyone we know. And with it being Adoption month we'll send one out again this month and in our Christmas letters in December. You know what they say about the squeeky wheel! Networking is the way to go. Getting the word out. YOU might be our link...YOU know someone who know's someone who know's someone who is expecting and looking into making an adoption plan or just doesn't know what to do about an unplanned pregnancy. YOU can help!
A few weeks ago I was having some adoption anxiety with the wait and the financial draining of funds adoption brings. I mentioned we were looking into fundraising options along with loans and applying for grants. I think we've finally come to a conclusion on what feels right for us. Scouts sell cookies and popcorn to help offset the cost of camps, so what can we sell to offset our adoption costs. These are just a few of the things I've come up with.
I've always had a desire to adopt, Eric from the beginning said no. I remained persistant and every so often I'd mention it in passing and "feel him out". The summer of 2010 there was a situation that a distant family member had a baby and DCFS stepped in and removed the baby from her care before she was even able to leave the hospital with the baby. Eric and I discussed this child and even though we realized we wouldn't be able to get that child it opened up a line of communication between us to really investigate adoption. To my surprise Eric had a change of heart. Initially I looked into foster care, there are so many children in the system that are in need of a good, loving home and it breaks my heart that so many are in need of a forever family. Sadly the Illinois laws turned us away from becoming foster parents. I understand and agree with the philosophy of keeping families together, but how many chances does a parent get? How many times does a child need to be bounced back and forth from parents to foster care. I couldn't allow Jonner to have someone in and out of our home, he wouldn't understand and it'd break my heart.
January of this year I started looking into adoption and doing a little bit of research. I had no idea where to start. One day I wore my Hawkeye shirt to pick J up from school and one of his classmate's mom stated she was from Iowa and her son's birthmother was too. Wearing that shirt was a blessing and gave me a starting point! She hooked me up with an attorney in Iowa and I contacted them and we received their application form in the mail. We filled it out but something just didn't feel right and I didn't send it off right away. A week later a girl from church and I were talking and she mentioned a friend of her's had adopted from Lutheran Child and Family Services right here in the town we live in. Instantly I knew that was the route I wanted to go. Local for me to feel involved and having grown up in a Lutheran church it felt right for me. Eric just went along for the ride and let me make most of the decissions. I contacted LCFS and stopped at their office and picked up an application, made an appointment to meet with one of their workers and get started. Since we'd already filled out an application for the attorney in Iowa it was easy to fill out the LCFS application and get it returned in no time. On March 7, 2011 it was offical, we'd jumped into the adoption process with both feet. Our application and application fee had been submitted with much of our additional background information. In April we had our homestudy walk through of our home and by the end of May we had our approved homestudy in our hot little hands. We were approved to adopt!
It's crazy how an individual can get pregnant, and be able to take their child home with them no questions asked and yet to adopt we indure fingerprinting, background checks, a home walk through, interviewing of friends, letters from family, financial reports...and this is just a peak of what is need to adopt. It's not for the faint of heart and it weeds out those that are not serious about adoption. We made it through the paperwork! Now we continue to wait...
Waiting; this is the hard part. We've sent facebook messages and emails out to everyone we know. And with it being Adoption month we'll send one out again this month and in our Christmas letters in December. You know what they say about the squeeky wheel! Networking is the way to go. Getting the word out. YOU might be our link...YOU know someone who know's someone who know's someone who is expecting and looking into making an adoption plan or just doesn't know what to do about an unplanned pregnancy. YOU can help!
A few weeks ago I was having some adoption anxiety with the wait and the financial draining of funds adoption brings. I mentioned we were looking into fundraising options along with loans and applying for grants. I think we've finally come to a conclusion on what feels right for us. Scouts sell cookies and popcorn to help offset the cost of camps, so what can we sell to offset our adoption costs. These are just a few of the things I've come up with.
Turkey shirts for cute little turkey's to celebrate Thanksgiving in. Above I have the girl version with bright pretty colors and below is the boy handprint version on camo. Right now I'm only making toddler sizes 18m - 5t for $8.00. I'll be starting Christmas shirts soon too!
All sales from my facebook site Tickled Pink Stitching will go towards our adoption fund. I'm excited about being able to combine doing something I love and knowing that I can release some of the financial anxiety I have of wondering where the money will come from to finalize the adoption and make it all legal once we do get our wee one.
Wednesday, November 2, 2011
Row, Row, Row Your Boat...
Today was going to be a busy one for me. Run to the commissary, play catch up on the laundry, recreate a few things I've seen on Pinterest, put away Halloween and get out the turkeys & pilgrims. Instead I was lucky enough to get up close and personal with the grout lines in my bathroom. Showering this morning I noticed the water was draining slowly so I finished up so I could start my busy day. I was greated by 1/2 an inch of standing water on my bathroom floor and the tub in Jonner's bathroom had backed up and had standing water in it. The plumber has spent the morning cleaning the main line out and digging out roots but he believes there is either an impassable knot of roots or a break in the line. WooHoo I was wondering how long we'd have a nice "cushion" in our savings account. 10 days, and we're wipped clean without a safety net. Just when we start to get ahead we're knocked back down.
Right now we're waiting for all utilities to come mark for any underground lines before the digging begins. I wrote a check for 1/2 of what it'll cost to complete the repairs outside. An insurance adjuster will be coming today to see how much damage was done to our bathroom from all of the water. I've used every last towel (clean and dirty) to soak up the water. Hopefully by this time tomorrow we'll be back to business as usual.
Meanwhile I hope we can figure out the toilet situation, laundry, dishes....my sanity. On a positive note, once it's all said, done, paid for we will have a 20yr warranty in our hot little hands!
Cup half full..... of grimey, poop water.
Right now we're waiting for all utilities to come mark for any underground lines before the digging begins. I wrote a check for 1/2 of what it'll cost to complete the repairs outside. An insurance adjuster will be coming today to see how much damage was done to our bathroom from all of the water. I've used every last towel (clean and dirty) to soak up the water. Hopefully by this time tomorrow we'll be back to business as usual.
Meanwhile I hope we can figure out the toilet situation, laundry, dishes....my sanity. On a positive note, once it's all said, done, paid for we will have a 20yr warranty in our hot little hands!
Cup half full..... of grimey, poop water.
Monday, October 24, 2011
"A" is for Adoption Anxiety
I've had a lot rolling around in my head today. Adoption anxiety & restlessness. Patience has never been one of my strong points.
Last week I had a weird dream. Jonner and I were sitting in a hospital waiting room with two other families waiting for the social worker to come talk to us. When she came in she said "a child is available for adoption, I just need to look at your files to find out which family is a compatable match". One family stood up and said they were only interested in a newborn, the other family stood and said they wanted a child 2 or younger. I stood and said we're willing to adopt a child 3 or younger as long as the child is younger than Jonner. The social worker announced with a big smile "you're the new family of a 3yr old girl"! Jonner and I were overjoyed and the other two families left the room. I quickly texted Eric (who was a work) "it's a girl and she's 3yrs old". We were escorted into a private room where I met my new daughter, she had dark hair and eyes and was named Sonja. I held her and Jonner tried to play with her and she was shy and unsure of both of us. I was just looking at her and noticed she had an ouchie on her wrist and someone had put duct tape on her ouchie instead of a bandaid. It was then a nurse came in and whisked her away and informed me Sonja had an infection.
Then I woke up. I had to experience my new child already being taken away and even though there hadn't been a "formal" bonding time, she was mine and I wasn't ready to let anyone take her from me...from us. Her family.
The anxiety I experience comes with the wait and not knowing a timeline of when we'll get a referral. I worry about the cost and being able to afford adoption. I plan on applying for grants but they're few and far between and I can't bank on receiving a grant. Do we borrow, fundraise, get a loan? Unfortunately Eric and I are not on the same page when it comes to how we'll pay. I'm naturally a planner and would rather know where the money is "in the event of" and not be pressed when we have a huge bill and are trying to finalize the adoption 6 months after placement. Not to mention the cost of diapers & formula. I know families get by all the time and I know we too will figure it out.
Today was my first big day of anxiety...not too bad for once in the first 6 months. Going into this journey I knew it wasn't going to be a quick one. I trust that the Lord has hand picked our child and I pray for this child and his/her birthfamily.
We continue to network with family and friends in hopes that one of you out there will know someone who know's someone who is wanting to make an adoption plan for her unborn child.
Please continue to pray for our family during this adoption process.
Last week I had a weird dream. Jonner and I were sitting in a hospital waiting room with two other families waiting for the social worker to come talk to us. When she came in she said "a child is available for adoption, I just need to look at your files to find out which family is a compatable match". One family stood up and said they were only interested in a newborn, the other family stood and said they wanted a child 2 or younger. I stood and said we're willing to adopt a child 3 or younger as long as the child is younger than Jonner. The social worker announced with a big smile "you're the new family of a 3yr old girl"! Jonner and I were overjoyed and the other two families left the room. I quickly texted Eric (who was a work) "it's a girl and she's 3yrs old". We were escorted into a private room where I met my new daughter, she had dark hair and eyes and was named Sonja. I held her and Jonner tried to play with her and she was shy and unsure of both of us. I was just looking at her and noticed she had an ouchie on her wrist and someone had put duct tape on her ouchie instead of a bandaid. It was then a nurse came in and whisked her away and informed me Sonja had an infection.
Then I woke up. I had to experience my new child already being taken away and even though there hadn't been a "formal" bonding time, she was mine and I wasn't ready to let anyone take her from me...from us. Her family.
The anxiety I experience comes with the wait and not knowing a timeline of when we'll get a referral. I worry about the cost and being able to afford adoption. I plan on applying for grants but they're few and far between and I can't bank on receiving a grant. Do we borrow, fundraise, get a loan? Unfortunately Eric and I are not on the same page when it comes to how we'll pay. I'm naturally a planner and would rather know where the money is "in the event of" and not be pressed when we have a huge bill and are trying to finalize the adoption 6 months after placement. Not to mention the cost of diapers & formula. I know families get by all the time and I know we too will figure it out.
Today was my first big day of anxiety...not too bad for once in the first 6 months. Going into this journey I knew it wasn't going to be a quick one. I trust that the Lord has hand picked our child and I pray for this child and his/her birthfamily.
We continue to network with family and friends in hopes that one of you out there will know someone who know's someone who is wanting to make an adoption plan for her unborn child.
Please continue to pray for our family during this adoption process.
Saturday, October 22, 2011
Fall Fun
On a typical weekend we all curl up on the couch and eventually we all fall asleep and when we wake up we tease each other about falling asleep during our family movie/cuddle time. Today I'm letting my guys curl up with some Scooby-Doo and I'm playing catch up. My two favorite guys are holding to tradition and snoozing away!
My poor little guy is sporting a rash on his face & neck. I took him to the Dr. yesterday and I was told that a child with frequent respitory issues it's common to have a "hystamine" attack and have irratation from things they come in contact with. The only thing out of our norm is we went to the pumpkin patch and he was lovin' on and feeding the cows.
It's a little on the itchy side, but for the most part it's not giving him to much grief and he's leaving it alone. Hopefully another day or two of Zyrtec & 1% Cortizone will clear him up. Thankfully he's not contagious! And while we were at the Dr. I went ahead and started getting him caught up on some of his vaccines while we were there AND healthy. Poor guy got 3 shots in the thigh and we go back next month for his 4yr old well check up and he'll get 3 more.
The temps really dropped this week and I broke down and turned the heat on for a few days. I love the cooler temps fall brings but I'm not a big fan of the damp, drizzle that we had for a few days this week. Monday Jonner and I joined our MOPS group for a trip to the pumpkin patch. As always we had a great time seeing the animals, playing with friends in the farm play center and riding the tractor to pick out the perfect pumpkin. After trompsing through the pumpkin patch and passing on several pumkins, Jonner found a winner to bring home!
Jonner and I made another fun craft this week. We raided the plastic recycle bin and found two milk jugs that we could transform into spooky ghosts. We started out putting a layer of glow in the dark paint over the jug and then added our facial features with black paint. We should have put several coats of glow in the dark on the jug because one just didn't do much! But we had fun and our ghosts turned out fabulous!
These were made to put a light in to illuminate from the inside, but Jonner and one of his little playmates made a game of Boo Chase out of them. They each held a jug by it's handle and chased each other around the yard yelling "boooooo" and going up on the neighbors "haunted" porch. I love seeing how little imaginative minds work and I'm so happy they were able to make something recycled into something fun!
This morning was a Mommy Morning. Every year my good friend and I make a point to get out on a weekend, kid-free. We've been to the Belleville Historical Christmas Tour and we oh'd and ah'd over the wonderful Christmas decor the beautiful, historical homes of Belleville area. The last couple of years we've gone to the local Craft Fair at the Fairgrounds. Last year the building was packed with vendors and so many crafts to choose from and inspire to recreate. This cute owl was my big find last year. I just love him and can keep him up the entire fall season.
This year was a little bit of a disappointment. There were not near as many vendors as last year, but we still had a good time and saw and bought some cute crafts.
Sara & Saul Pilgrim are a cute little couple that I scored an awesome deal on for the pair (they were mis-marked) and since I have very little Thanksgiving decor I thought it'd be fun to get something. Especially since I'm hosting Thanksgiving this year!
These days out are few and far between and very much enjoyed by both of us. Thanks to some hubby's that help with schedules to make it happen. I couldn't ask for more!
The temps really dropped this week and I broke down and turned the heat on for a few days. I love the cooler temps fall brings but I'm not a big fan of the damp, drizzle that we had for a few days this week. Monday Jonner and I joined our MOPS group for a trip to the pumpkin patch. As always we had a great time seeing the animals, playing with friends in the farm play center and riding the tractor to pick out the perfect pumpkin. After trompsing through the pumpkin patch and passing on several pumkins, Jonner found a winner to bring home!
The best part of going to the pumpkin patch is being with friends. Jonner and his best girl Ellie have been the best of friends (it's a love/hate, brother/sister relationship) since they were little bitty's. And Jonas on the right is a new friend Jonner met at the pumpkin patch and they became fast friends.
These two are the best of the patch!
Jonner and I made another fun craft this week. We raided the plastic recycle bin and found two milk jugs that we could transform into spooky ghosts. We started out putting a layer of glow in the dark paint over the jug and then added our facial features with black paint. We should have put several coats of glow in the dark on the jug because one just didn't do much! But we had fun and our ghosts turned out fabulous!
This morning was a Mommy Morning. Every year my good friend and I make a point to get out on a weekend, kid-free. We've been to the Belleville Historical Christmas Tour and we oh'd and ah'd over the wonderful Christmas decor the beautiful, historical homes of Belleville area. The last couple of years we've gone to the local Craft Fair at the Fairgrounds. Last year the building was packed with vendors and so many crafts to choose from and inspire to recreate. This cute owl was my big find last year. I just love him and can keep him up the entire fall season.
HoHoHo my Santa Snowman will be a great addition to my Christmas Kitchen.
These days out are few and far between and very much enjoyed by both of us. Thanks to some hubby's that help with schedules to make it happen. I couldn't ask for more!
Friday, October 14, 2011
Adoption Update
This morning was our 6 month home walk through with our social worker from Luthern Child & Family Services. It was a simple 15 minute "inspection" to make sure our license was hung/displayed according to state regulations, all medicines & chemicals locked away, the gun in the safe, fire extinguisher & smoke detectors. Basic's that are pretty much our norm anyway. I did go through the house yesterday to make sure the smoke/carbon monoxide detectors worked and wouldn't you know it this morning I hear chirping. After changing batteries in the one from the laundry room I still could hear chirping. I found the guilty party in a drawer in the laundry room. Evidently we had an extra and it was tucked away and forgotten about!
Our worker informed me that our book has only been viewed once. I'm happy that it went out, and a little sad that we weren't chosen. I asked if the birthmom said why we weren't chosen and I guess she's having a bi-racial baby and choose a bi-racial family. I can understand and respect that decission and I like that it wasn't anything stupid like us not living in a big two story house.
We're still plugging away with our own networking and I've started a letter to enclose in our Christmas cards. We officially started the adoption process with paperwork in March...7 months... we're ready for a baby!
Jonner talks about having a baby sister all the time. It doesn't help that both of my sisters have little girls and his cousin's that are his age have what he wants....a baby sister. He's willing to take Abbi-Gail (Liam's sister) or Sienna (Levi's sister) and doesn't understand why he can't have them. Me telling him that they're already someone elses baby sister doesn't seem to hold much weight with him. As excited as he'd be to have a baby sister I know he'd be equally excited for a baby brother. He loves the babies!
I guess if you're reading this and know of someone looking into making an adoption plan for their unborn child, please remember us and refer the birthparent to us and/or contact us for contact info for our social worker and/or adoption attorney.
Our worker informed me that our book has only been viewed once. I'm happy that it went out, and a little sad that we weren't chosen. I asked if the birthmom said why we weren't chosen and I guess she's having a bi-racial baby and choose a bi-racial family. I can understand and respect that decission and I like that it wasn't anything stupid like us not living in a big two story house.
We're still plugging away with our own networking and I've started a letter to enclose in our Christmas cards. We officially started the adoption process with paperwork in March...7 months... we're ready for a baby!
Jonner talks about having a baby sister all the time. It doesn't help that both of my sisters have little girls and his cousin's that are his age have what he wants....a baby sister. He's willing to take Abbi-Gail (Liam's sister) or Sienna (Levi's sister) and doesn't understand why he can't have them. Me telling him that they're already someone elses baby sister doesn't seem to hold much weight with him. As excited as he'd be to have a baby sister I know he'd be equally excited for a baby brother. He loves the babies!
I guess if you're reading this and know of someone looking into making an adoption plan for their unborn child, please remember us and refer the birthparent to us and/or contact us for contact info for our social worker and/or adoption attorney.
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